Disagreement

In my personal life, I just reason broke of a relationship with my friend because of a disagreement. When I meet him, he had two little cute house puppies. I like dogs because I have one of my own, but I do not like them to stay in the house. After dating for a few months, my friend decided to take a better paying job at an electrical plant in Mississippi. He knew from communicating with me that I did not like house pets, but he asked if I would take care of the puppies and he would come to my house on Sunday which was his only off day. I thought about it for a while and decided to tell him I would keep the puppies only if he provides a cage for resting in the day and sleeping at night. I also told him that since I would be the one taking care of them, don’t he interfere with my rules as long as I did not mistreat them. He agreed that the puppies stay on the outside and come in throughout the day for rest and to sleep at night.

About four months later, my rules were no longer his concern, he start bringing the puppies back into the house. When I would leave to go out to run an area, he and both puppies would be lying in bed sleep when I arrived. The best thing for me to do at the time was to think before acting, because I was mad enough to jump rope. My feelings of thinking, being able to identify and express internal feeling states in a way that does not imply judgment, criticism, or blame/punishment is what I was trying to avoid in this relationship (The Center for Nonviolent Communication, 2013). We communicated once more about the rules that were put in place for the puppies that did not stand.

The third time, I observed him as he fell asleep with the puppies in his arms, I knew right then that all three of them has to go, because I did not want to get into no violence confutation about dogs. I believe in nonviolent communication, which is being able to carefully observe what is happening in my environment, and to specify behaviors and conditions that are affecting me (The Center for Nonviolent Communication, 2013). We are no longer together, he took the puppies to his ex-girlfriend and while in her care Morocco the boy puppy got hit by a car and died.

Reference

The Center for Nonviolent Communication. (n.d.). The center for nonviolent communication Retrieved from http://www.cnvc.org/

Communication Skills

Think about the similarities and differences between how you evaluated yourself as a communicator and how others evaluated you.

I do not think that I am a good communicator, but I am always involved in situations where individuals are asking for my advice. Many times I have wonder why people value my opinion so much, because sometimes even I cannot pronounce words as clearly as I would like too. After listening, observing, and giving advice throughout different conversations, most people would say I am a good communicator. Individuals would let me know that they felt much better since they came over to communicate with me. Most people that ask for my advice think I am funny, smart and compassionate (O’Hair & Wiemann, 2012)

The one thing that surprised me the most is when people tells me I am a good communicator and tells other individuals that I do not know to come and talk with me. My family members love asking me questions concerning situations, because they know that I am going to tell it like it is. Sometime they would say “I knew not to ask you, but I also knew you would tell the truth”. I try not to give negative comments when communicating with people because I do not want to send out the wrong message. When communicating with people, they observes the words you use, facial expressions, body movements, clothing and gestures (O’Hair & Wiemann, 2012).

The insights I have gained about communication this week is to learn to be the best communicator possible. “The most obvious parts of any communication situation are the communicators, the individuals who are engaged in communication” (O’Hair & Wiemann, 2012, p. 23). Also, through communication, people can learn about each other. Communication can build up individual’s self-esteem, self-motivation, self-efficacy, and self-concept (O’Hair & Wiemann, 2012). Persons can communicate in several different ways with all cultures such as e-mail, blog, face book, letter, fax, cell-phone, etc. It is very important for professionals to listen, communicate, and to understand other people differences. This can help to build positive relationship between all parties that involved.

Reference
O'Hair, D. & Wiemann, M. (2012). Real communication. New York: Bedford/St. Martin's.

COMMUNICATING WITH DIFFERENT CULTURES

I have found myself communicating differently around people of different cultures because I did not understand their English or what they were talking about. I did not give up because I was interested in learning more about them. I became friend with a young in 2007 in nursing school and it took me quite some time to pick up on what she was saying. We both laugh because she knew I was struggling to figure it out. So, we decided that when I could not figure out what she was saying, she would write it down on paper.

Strategies for effective communication

First verify own perceptions of any prejudice or bias behaviors. Everyone is different, but unique in their own way. Showing empathy toward other people feelings will help them to communicate more openly. If we are going to understand the feelings of others, we must put our own feelings aside. Lastly, listen to the communicators and get a good understanding of what is said. In most cases we hear, but we do not listen well. An effective communication requires all parties to respect each other differences.

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While watching General Hospital a daytime soap opera on TV with the sound turned off, I can tell that there was much tension between the man who looked to be the father, the two women which one looked to be the mother, a younger lady that might have been a girlfriend and the two young men who looked to be his sons. From the way, the man was looking and walking he appeared to be drunk and very upset about something. They all used nonverbal communication such as hand movement, eye-to-eye contact, walking, sitting and leaning across the table. Nonverbal communication is ambiguous, and you can pick up on clues about the meaning of behavior from the situational context (O’ Hair & Wiemann, 2012). One son went up the stairs, and one of the young men went up to talk with him, and the other one left with the young lady and one of the older women while the other woman stayed there.

After watching General Hospital with the sound on, my expectation was correct. The father (Sunny) upset because his fiancée (Connie) was murdered supposedly by his oldest son real father. One of the young men was his biological son and the other one was his adopted son. One of the oldest women was his ex-wife, which was also his son’s mother, and the other one was his fiancée cousin. If I had been looking at a show that I usual watch my expectations would have been the same.

I noticed a lot of sadness and emotion going on between close family members when watching this show. I have learned that some people show feelings and emotions through verbal and nonverbal communication. Many people find themselves unable to communicate well when it comes to their own emotion; they might express their frustration with family members by yelling at them (O’ Hair & Wiemann, 2012). Professionals should show passion and understandings in the early childhood field in order to promote relationships and gain respect from young children and families.

Reference

O'Hair, D., & Wiemann, M. (2012). Real communication: An introduction. New York: Bedford/St. Martin's.

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While watching General Hospital a daytime soap opera on TV with the sound turned off, I can tell that there was much tension between the man who looked to be the father, the two women which one looked to be the mother, a younger lady that might have been a girlfriend and the two young men who looked to be his sons. From the way, the man was looking and walking he appeared to be drunk and very upset about something. They all used nonverbal communication such as hand movement, eye-to-eye contact, walking, sitting and leaning across the table. Nonverbal communication is ambiguous, and you can pick up on clues about the meaning of behavior from the situational context (O’ Hair & Wiemann, 2012). One son went up the stairs, and one of the young men went up to talk with him, and the other one left with the young lady and one of the older women while the other woman stayed there.

After watching General Hospital with the sound on, my expectation was correct. The father (Sunny) upset because his fiance (Connie) was murdered supposedly by his oldest son real father. One of the young men was his biological son and the other one was his adopted son. One of the oldest women was his ex-wife, which was also his son’s mother, and the other one was his fiance cousin. If I had been looking at a show that I usual watch my expectations would have been the same.

I noticed a lot of sadness and emotion going on between close family members when watching this show. I have learned that some people show feelings and emotions through verbal and nonverbal communication. Many people find themselves unable to communicate well when it comes to their own emotion; they might express their frustration with family members by yelling at them (O’ Hair & Wiemann, 2012). Professionals should show passion and understandings in the early childhood field in order to promote relationships and gain respect from young children and families.

Reference

O'Hair, D., & Wiemann, M. (2012). Real communication: An introduction. New York: Bedford/St. Martin's.

Communication

Communication skills are very important it gives us the privilege to listen and understand communicators differences. I have this friend who is very effective in her communication skills. She works with young children and families at DHR. Her communication skills are great. Her family, co-workers, church members and the children at the center enjoys talking with her. She has his unique talent, passion, respect and loves that draw people close to her. There are many times I had to call her over to talk with my mental challenge son. The minute he would look up and see her coming, his face would have such big smile. I would like to model some of my own communication behaviors after my friend because she approaches all young children and families with respect and kindness. I have already learned many skills from her and will be learning more.

Professional Hopes and Goals

When I think about working with young children and their family from diversity, I hope to create a warm, loving and safe environment. I can build sound friendly and trusting relationships that show patience, passion and respect without any bias or prejudice. I can be an advocate for all young children and their family. I want students to know that I will stand and speak out for their rights. Young children learn best when educators and parents work together for their well-being.

A goal I would like to set in working with young children and their family in the early childhood field related diversity, equity, and social justice. My goal would be to help young children and their families of diverse to decrease any bias or prejudice that they may be having. I would like to teach young children early in life how to respect and accept other people differences. Children do not need to feel that some cultures are more value than others; instead, they should know that all cultures valued the same and every one should have equal opportunity within the society.

Thanks to my colleagues

I want to thank each of you my colleagues for your excellent postings on the discussion area. Your responds and postings helped me to understand many issues about diversity. I have learned a great deal of information since I have been in this course to take me into my next course. Again, Thanks and Good Luck!!

Dr. Snider,

Thank you for all your feedback and encouragement. It was rough at the beginning, but following your advice helped me great deal. Thanks for Everything!!

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